hello! my name is nikol. my main goal in life is to be the vegan martha stewart, without the prison time. friend to all animals, but not many humans. married + babied. pisces + infp. this blog is sometimes nsfw. ♡
deliciouscandi: I once saw on fb where u posted about making your own wipes. Would you mind telling me how you did yours? I'm wanting to start making my own for Oak
hi, i posted it a while back right here! you can change this up however you like, but i recommend you don’t use johnson & johnson baby stuff because of all the scary ingredients. i’m publishing this so others can see as well, hope that’s okay! n_n
i say this every month but it’s so bittersweet. now when he smiles, you can see his two little front teeth. it’s remarkable how much i have watched him grow and develop over the past nine months. sometimes i can’t believe he is the same squishy newborn we brought home from the hospital. he was only a week old here:
i also can’t believe that i grew this perfect human being inside my own body (which i have mistreated in the past and now i regret it because it does some truly amazing things for my son and myself), and now, nine months later, i am continuing to sustain him with it.
i guess i’d better start planning his first birthday party soon…
That 1 man out of 16,667 who requires a circumcision later in life will be treated much differently than the newborn.
The older male will know what is going to be done, the newborn is confused and so afraid. The man will be unconscious on an operating table, not strapped to a board awake and terrified. The man’s foreskin has naturally detached from the glans, the newborn’s foreskin is fused to the head of the penis and must be ripped, crushed and clamped before it can be cut. The man will receive adequate pain medication during and after the procedure and can vocalize his needs during the healing process, the infant gets a sugar coated pacifier and some Tylenol whenever mommy feels like it. The man can get air to his wound, the infant sits in his urine and feces. Don’t cut babies.
Health Doesn’t Come In a Scalpel
fox’s first curry
he has both upper central incisors coming in and one lower, and they all cut through this week. pobrecito. 😞
More than 90% of Americans admit to spanking their children, and yet the common contention is that its the decline in spanking that is responsible for the purportedly escalating rates of youth violence and crime. Is it really the less than 10% of children who aren’t spanked who are responsible for all the problems of our society? Or could it be that the 90% of children who are subject to violence at home in the form of being slapped, paddled, smacked, yanked, whipped, popped, spanked, etc. are taking those lessons out on the world? Is it just possible that children who are hit learn to hit? That children who are hurt learn to hurt?
omg hahaha fox at christmas
oh my gosh, baby docs. i’m getting these. just can’t decide between red or black.
Sorry not sorry: Saw a mom earlier who claimed she held her baby every time he cried….
Saw a mom earlier who claimed she held her baby every time he cried.
So your telling me when you were driving somewhere with him and he started to cry you pulled over, took that baby out of his car seat and held him? Doubt it.
Your attachment parenting does not mean you bond more with your baby…
Is it maybe possible that her child doesnt cry in the car? My son doesnt cry in the car. One time he did and it was really bad and yes we pulled over because something seemed to be wrong. For all we knew he could have been sitting on something that was causing him pain or something worse. And we pull over when he cries because he hungry.
Attachment parenting isnt about thinking you bond more or about thinking you are better. Its about tending to your childs needs, instead of ignoring them like their issues are not only unimportant to you but a total bother.
this! i chose to stay pregnant and to keep my baby so the next logical step would be to tend to his every need. because he’s a baby. he has the same needs as i do, he just doesn’t know what to do about them yet.
fox doesn’t cry much in the car either, so when he does, i know he needs something. the couple of times that he has, we have always pulled over to see what the problem was. i would rather calm him than drive with a screaming baby in the back seat.
actually he just doesn’t cry period unless he needs something. so that means i need to do something about it. sometimes he just wants contact, so i give that to him. i can’t believe people actually take issue with this.
sorry not sorry.
About You
Name?: nikol
Age?: 22
Height?: 5’5”
Pre-pregnancy weight?: 114 lbs
Post-pregnancy weight?: 100 lbs
About the Father
Name?: vincent
Age?: 26
Height?: 5’9”?
Are you still together?: yes, for four years now. fox was born exactly three years to the day of our first date. i think he waited that extra hour or so just so i could say that.
About Your Pregnancy
Was this your first pregnancy?: i had an early miscarriage not long before fox was conceived.
When did you find out you were pregnant?: i knew i was pregnant before my appointment with my obstetrician (which was my final checkup to make sure i was okay after our loss). i told vincent before we went inside that he shouldn’t be surprised if i take a pregnancy test and it’s positive. the nurse thought i was crazy and just not dealing well when i told her i thought she should do a test. but i was right.
Was it planned?: the first time was planned, but we didn’t know you could get pregnant after a miscarriage before you had a period. and we decided not to try again until i could sort out my head. but we were both excited, and so so nervous. we kept it a secret for a while.
What was your first reaction?: a big smile, because i already knew.
Who was with you when you found out?: vincent actually told ME. i think that not lot of girls get to experience their s/o telling them they’re pregnant. we were in the ultrasound room getting ready to make sure everything had ‘passed’ from the miscarriage (ugh), and i was in the attached bathroom when the nurse came in the room. v asked, “so did they do a pregnancy test or..?” so when i came out, he told me i’m pregnant.
Who was the first person you told?: my grandma
How did your parents react?: our mums were so happy for us! both our fathers died when we were teenagers. but i know they’d be happy too.
How far along were you when the baby was born?: 38 weeks, 1 day
What was your first symptom?: just feeling like i was pregnant, then sore boobs and a superhuman sense of smell.
What was your due date?: july 24th — he came friday, july 13th.
Did you want a girl or a boy?: i just wanted a healthy baby. i couldn’t care less about its gender. i feel sad when people say they want one over the other — what if your baby finds out later that he wasn’t born the ‘right’ gender, the one you wanted?
What names did you pick out?: for a girl we chose violet, and our other choice for a boy’s name was luca.
Did you get stretch marks?: no! which is odd because it’s a genetic thing and everyone else in my family got them. i think it’s partly because i never ate any meat when i was pregnant, and hardly any junk food, so when i had pregnancy ‘binges’, they were always healthy foods.
Did you get morning sickness?: i was very sick until the middle of my second trimester i guess, and then on and off. i was sensitive to almost all smells, and some sights too. just the thought of meat made me hurl. i also hated garlic, which is one of my favorite things.
About the Birth
Did you have a birth plan?: kinda… i kept referring to it as our ‘birth outline’ or ‘birth ideas’ in jest. really it was for myself more than the medical staff. most didn’t care about it anyway.
Home or hospital birth?: hospital. home births with a midwife sadly aren’t an option here.
Natural or medicated birth?: natural with 30+ hours of intense labor.
Who was in the delivery room with you?: i only wanted vincent, my doula, and my obstetrician to be in there with me, but we had a meconium incident so there were loads of nurses in the room, including a girl with whom i went to high school. :/
Did you breastfeed?: we’re still going eight months later!
Did you cry when you held the baby for the first time?: i was too exhausted and delirious. but i was all smiles. i cried later that morning, happy tears for obvious reasons and sad ones because i suddenly felt so empty physically and my baby was so vulnerable outside my body. sometimes i wish he still lived there just because he was always safe.
Did you poop?: vincent insists i didn’t, so i’m just going with that. i believe it because i wasn’t allowed to eat the whole time i was in labor at the hospital.
Did you let someone videotape the birth?: noooo. but i wouldn’t have been allowed even if i wanted it due to hospital policy.
Were you excited or scared?: both. that’s the most scared and excited i’ve ever felt in my life. once they told me he had meconium though, i felt my heart break a little bit because i knew how serious that could be. they told me not to panic if i didn’t hear him cry, which made me panic really hard.
Who cut the cord?: my obstetrician. i wanted vincent to do it, but everything happened so fast and the meconium thing meant they had to get him out and make sure he hadn’t aspirated any of it. he didn’t.
Did you tear?: no, which is awesome because that was what i was most afraid of throughout my entire pregnancy and labor. i did kegels like a madwoman as soon as i found out i was pregnant, and even through my labor. and then a very kind nurse did perineal massage toward the end of my labor and i think that was key.
Now
How many kids do you have?: one forever
How old are they?: 8 months, 2 weeks
Do you want more?: no, i can’t imagine dividing my time, resources, and most importantly, my affection between two or more kids. fox is perfect.
Are you on birth control? What kind?: no, i can’t handle synthetic hormones and the iud scares the shit out of me. i don’t want anything to interfere with breastfeeding and i don’t want foreign objects in my body. we’re very careful though.
also my shirt isn’t black for once
how I spend my days 🚼💞
another favorite!
these Rockabye Baby! lullaby covers are so precious. I think the Pixies album is my favorite… or maybe Radiohead. or the Smiths. or… I can’t choose. either way, if I didn’t have a baby to play these for already, I’d be busy making one right now.
The more you know!! :)
Oliver will be 5 weeks on Thursday, maybe this is why hes had a fussy last couple of days?
I wonder how accurate this is… Maverick has been really fussy the past two days but week 5 is almost up.
There’s an app for this called the wonder weeks :)
this seems accurate so far. but the first little sliver of a baby tooth has started poking through today so…
